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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was a young mom - had my son at 24 - and it was TERRIBLE. Every single person thought they knew more than I did about my child (he's fully vaccinated, is now 10, and isn't a spoiled brat), his doctors talked down to me, my own doctors didn't believe when I had health problems related to delivery ("You're too young to be having that problem, only older mothers have that issue"; "Sorry you're still in pain after 5 months, I'm sure you'll feel better soon, call back in 2 weeks if you think you need to be seen by a doctor"; "PPD is pretty common, but your baby is completely perfect, why aren't you happy?"), and I was blamed for pretty much everything that ever went wrong. I had ZERO support, please let these mothers be. TELL THEM that they're doing a great job, LISTEN TO THEM when they tell you things. Don't be dismissive.[/quote]

This. As a AA mother, I got this a lot too. Our family medicine practice has a few med student interns every year and there's always one who is ready to tell me how to care for my kids and acts as if this must be my first ever visit to a doctor and are shocked to learn I went to grad school. I'm sick of doctors playing down pain (no, I don't have a higher threshold for pain, med students, b/c I'm black) and I've never used a food stamp.

That said, my regular doctor is usually great.[/quote]

I'm the pp you quoted - I'm white, was in law school when I had my son (unplanned, single, in an abusive relationship), grew up UMC, and was on food stamps at the time because I was in law school. Also was on medicaid. I'm sure all that contributed, but it sure would have been nice to have a pediatrician or doctor for myself who cared and thought to be supportive rather than dismissive.[/quote]

I think its just easier to write everyone off. [/quote]

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