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[quote=Anonymous]Don't expect your toddler to be finished with the "transition to a family of 4" in a nice and neat time frame of a few days or week.  It may takes months for your older child to adjust.

I was expecting some more typical behavior out of my 2 year old, like expressing anger at the baby.  But she had none of that.  She was pretty neutral to positive towards the baby.  Yet!  We started getting some huge wicked tantrums.  About other things.  But of course in hindsight it became so obvious that it was all about her adjustment to the new baby.

I also think with a two year old big sibling, you can't expect too much independence out of them.  You can try for it, yes.  But have realistic goals.  Your two year old is still really little, try to remember that.  They can seem so big all of a sudden with a newborn.  Now that my 2nd kid is 2 I realize just how little my older one was, and that I was definitely too hard on her at time expecting too much (ex: doing what I asked like "please get in the bath tub" where she'd just dig in and say no as a way to express stress).  Which lead to more stress and tantrums.[/quote]

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