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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]If he calls/texts again (and he probably will; guys like this are very predictable), do not give him a second chance; he’ll do it again[/b]. You’re not a moron, or stupid; you’re inexperienced in dating, and trusted his sincerity. Many of us here have BTDT; its hard to date without collecting some stories about negative experiences. That’s okay — you just need to work on building your self-esteem and not internalizing geez things, or blaming yourself.[/quote]

This is KEY. It's so much easier to see from the outside. I've been there and it took me a long time to learn this lesson and cultivate the self-esteem needed to weather dating. Also, so often these guys DO come back (when they're horny, when they're lonely, when other leads haven't panned out, or just when they feel up to the effort again). Do yourself a huge favor and move on. I don't think you should be rude (even though they deserve it)--just don't be available to them. Let them know you've moved on and you wish them the best.

It is very important to break the cycle with men like this. Look at your original message--you wonder what YOU did wrong. As you doing everything right will ensure that someone else will treat you respectfully and a relationship will work out.

Of course you want to be your best self.

I recommend the book "attached" about attachment styles. I read it based on a recommendation here and it changed my dating life. I went on to meet my spouse. That book helped me understand myself and others, and recognize what a healthy relationship feels like. Therapy, too. :)[/quote]

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