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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, your FIL would be much better off in a care facility with frequent visits and lots of regular engagement from you and your family.[b] Dementia, Parkinson's AND dialysis is not a load that can be managed as a side project for two FT working parents who are also managing 3 small kids.[/b] It's wildly unrealistic and unfair to everyone involved, not least your FIL.

Another point to bear in mind: Whatever his condition was before he was hospitalized, it will not revert to status quo ante. Elderly patients never fully recover from the decompensation they experience while hospitalized.

Where do your inlaws live now? Is there a home/apartment that could be sold to finance his care?

You should be focusing your energies now on working with the hospital social worker on the best possible (and closest possible) placement for him. BTW the PP who said the hospital social worker will just try to pawn him off on you is wrong - they're not idiots or totally irresponsible.

One other point: track down the hospital's palliative care department / specialist. We met with them when my parent who had Alzheimers went through a long hospital stay. The palliative care specialists were truly wonderful in helping us think through the right questions to consider in order to give him the best possible quality of life with dignity to figure out where he would be best situated and to manage his care during the later phases of his illness. [/quote]

I don't think it can be managed by anyone without substantial professional help, honestly. Physical incapacitation plus dementia means you need someone experienced who is also large/strong (or two people) around at all hours to handle this, particularly since dialysis means the person must leave the home for treatment (or require in home dialysis which requires constant monitoring by an experienced person) several times a week.[/quote]

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