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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^^Mind you, I truly do love having three!  Absolutely love it and I am grateful every day.  But as I said, a huge part of our decision to have three and the reason I enjoy it is that we were lucky to have the chance to choose flexible positions that still pay reasonably well.  We're not DCUM wealthy, but we're comfortable, and happy with what we have. 
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Do you think if they were spaced out more it'd be harder or easier long run?  I of course could wait for longer to go for a 3rd, just based on previous experience I feel like it may take years so would want to get moving, but if we get moving I need to actually be prepared for the chance it happens quickly?

Is it the 3rd that makes it substantially more challenging or do you feel like 2 would be as close to as difficult on your own for that time of day?[/quote]

I think spacing issues come out in the wash in terms of difficulty.  Some things are easier with longer spacing (older kid is more self-sufficient, less overlap in college tuition if that's an issue), but some things are harder (less likely to play together, younger kids get schlepped around to olders' activities).  It's more about trade-offs.

And, yes, the third makes it substantially more challenging for solo parenting.  Don't get me wrong, two isn't easy, but compared to three, it's a freaking piece of cake.  That was probably the toughest adjustment to having three.  DH and I can easily handle them when we're together, but managing three kids solo is brutal, particularly not when they're young.  I mostly have a good system down now, but the youngest is three and it still is management more than fun.[/quote]

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