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[quote=Anonymous]I have 4 kids.  The oldest two are popular and I attribute it to their outgoing and personable personalities.  Both have never met a stranger, which was terrifying when they were younger.  They'll strike up a conversation with anyone and are really good about reading the cues on who wants to keep chatting and who would rather be ignored.  They did not get those traits from me!  I'm an introvert and if someone chats with me, for example, in line at the grocery store, I can never tell if I should keep chatting or if it was a onetime comment and response.  I'm an awkward disaster.  I was never popular.

The third kid could be popular but doesn't like people.  He has no issues with public speaking nor any awkwardness when chatting with strangers, he's just not going to be the first person to initiate a conversation.  He has a solid group of friends but it's not like with the older ones where there's always new and different kids coming over.  I know his 6 friends and those are pretty much the only ones who ever come over.

The fourth kid is 11 and it's hard to tell with her.  She's outgoing and has lots of friends, but she doesn't care about the coolest clothes or what's necessarily popular at the moment.  She likes what she likes and isn't embarrassed by anything she likes, if that makes sense.  It could go either way with her next year when she's in 6th grade.  I find that's really when it becomes clear on who they are going to be... popular, nerdy, etc.  It's easy to be popular in elementary school... you just have to have the house with cool gadgets/toys, current gaming system, an easy WiFi password, and good snacks.  Also, if you throw an epic birthday party, you're pretty much locked in as popular.

I think it's all personality based.  The key seems to be being outgoing.  Second would be caring about the latest trends.  And thirdly, actually liking people would help.      [/quote]

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