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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe you’re overthinking? If I said this to someone such as yourself, it would mean I tried a small taste of your everyday and found it very challenging and I am giving you respect and credit for doing something without complaint that I found hard, that you are an awesome mom. I don’t think an answer is required since it isn’t really a question. A response, also not needed but could be a simple thank you. Or maybe it doesn’t feel hard to you because it is your usual. Or some days are easier than others.[b] I don’t understand what is difficult in this exchange, being genuine not snarky.[/quote][/b]

NP. I'm not OP, but I have a special needs kid, and sometimes when people make comments like "I can't imagine how you do it!" it's off putting and isolating. Like, my life must suck so much they can't even imagine it, except to be glad they are not me.

If someone is genuinely noticing that my life must be hard what would be nicer is if they could just file that amazing revelation away quietly in their own head and reach out to help instead.

But people who think they are giving a compliment are likely to disagree with this.[/quote]

This.

I also find it interesting when people receive feedback that "I don't know how you do it" lands a certain way, the immediate response of most people is to tell you to get over it and it's a compliment.  Maybe try considering how the statement lands to someone who is actually hearing it.[/quote]

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