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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My daughter's friend (we'll call her M) does not really have any friends outside their small friend group, whereas my daughter and the other girls in the group have other friends with whom they will sometimes hang out with. They are in 8th grade. Whenever my daughter does something without M, M goes pretty crazy and tells my daughter that if she were a real friend she'd invite M, how she should cancel the plans with the other girls and hang out with her instead, etc. My daughter woke up to a string of 8 text messages this morning telling her   what a terrible friend she is, how she doesn't care about M, etc. (similar things have happened in the past).

I don't know what to tell her. Drop the friend? [/quote]

Why can’t she ever invite her to go join the group and why does she keep their friendship separate? Many friends introduce their friends to each other and they become friends as well and it becomes a larger group.[/quote]
[b]The other girls do not like M or want to spend time in her company.[/b][/quote]

This seems to me a red flag that there might be some mean girl behavior going on.  Perhaps M is being targeted and isolated/shunned by other girls, which would explain why she is being so clingy with your daughter.

Again, as I mentioned in my post above, don't assume you have all of the information.  [/quote]

Just what I was thinking.  Do you know M well?  Is it really her?[/quote]

You read the OP right? You see how M is acting about OP’s dd doing something with other people. Blowing up her phone saying she’s not a real friend when M doesn’t get invited to something. So rude and dramatic. Why would you assume she’s likable in other situations? She probably treated other girls the way she’s treating OP’s dd, and they dropped her already. When people are rude and manipulative, they lose friends. Why would you push your dd to keep inviting someone so needy and clingy along to everything and disregard your dd’s feelings on the subject? It’s ok not to invite one person to every social interaction you have. [/quote]

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