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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When you get divorced or have any type of hardship this is where you find out who your real friends are.[/quote]

Yes.[/quote]

Honestly this is so condescending it's incredible. Just because you are going through a divorce or other hardship doesn't negate your own responsibilities and accountability to the people in your life. I'm so tired of hearing how a "true friend" will put up with virtually anything and everything to somehow prove that they are sincere or otherwise - welp - they weren't a friend.

EVERYONE goes through hardships - all of us. But you have the absolute obligation to check yourself first - and stop blaming other people for "not being there" or otherwise being a bad friend.

OP came here for advice - and wants to be a friend. Anyone who uses someone else as a constant emotional crutch and sole source to vent is also "not a good friend" - doesn't that ever register with people?

As for advice - yes, please advise counseling and also, it's okay to be honest with your friend. "I know you are struggling, and I am trying to be here for you and help you, but I don't know if I'm equipped to help you or will always have the right words. I know you don't mean it, but lately you sound resentful of my life and that hurts. I feel I can't share anything good with you. I know you are hurting and struggling - please let me know how I can be a good friend to you and if we can talk about this."

If someone is such a "real" friend, they should be able to handle "real" conversations instead of treating everyone like a Faberge egg when anything is happening in their life.[/quote]

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