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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have four kids and work PT as a physician at a major academic center.  I still feel like I achieve things at work, although maybe not on the timeline I would if I didn’t have children.
  But I switched to part time not long after I had my first.  It didn’t have anything to do with having four kids.  [b]It seems to me that as long as you have childcare figured out, it doesn’t matter if you have one or six.[/b]  I guess there is some extra cooking and laundry, but that’s easy enough to hire out.  [/quote]

Okay, what?!  You don't honestly mean outsourcing all of your childcare... or maybe you do.  Because actively parenting kids is hard work, and there is a huge difference when more kids are added.  Each kid is an individual and then you parent the dynamics between multiple kids.

And to OP: I have three and purposely chose a less competitive path for my career.  I'm still somewhat ambitious, but not to the extent that I'm willing to work all hours or stress myself half to death.  Part of it has nothing to do with kids: I have a wicked exercise habit I've cultivated for years, and too much work gets in the way of that.[/quote]

I am not quite sure what you are saying here.  But yes...if you are the kind of parent who is willing to skip the big meeting to pick up kids at school, then it doesn’t matter (in terms of your career) whether there is one kid at that bus stop or five.  And if you are the kind of parent who is aiming to be leading the big meeting and has hired a nanny to pick up kids at the bus stop, then it doesn’t matter if it’s one kid or five.  
I am not trying to say that your home life isnt any different. Of course it is.  But your work life doesn’t have to significantly change.   [/quote]

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