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[quote=Anonymous]I think previous posters are onto a good point: it depends on what you're looking for.  If you're looking for companionship, just going to a bar and hoping you meet someone is not the best strategy.  Many of the charming guys you meet will be married.  If you're looking for sex, that's something else.

Online is how most 40yo guys will expect to meet.  I'd urge you to think about what you want and go for that rather than focus on the vulnerability of being on the market.  For single or divorced guys, having to put yourself out there is the norm.  It's only women that have the luxury of waiting for guys to approach them. (I'm not saying that is smart, just that women can do that if they want.  Guys virtually never have that option, absent a lot of money or cheekbones to die for, and even then who knows.)  I think if you understand that you're in a new phase of your life and approach it with an open mind, you'll be fine.  You may have to suffer through some bad dates, but that's life.

I say all this as a divorced 40yo guy who has faced his fair share of rejection in the past.  It just is what it is.  After my divorce, I went out with a lot of women.  Most of which (90%) didn't work out for one reason or another.  But ultimately I got lucky and found a real gem.  Hopefully, I'll be able to keep her in my life.  
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