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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m 41. I really wanted to have a second baby for last 2 years. Last 2 months I started feeling, that maybe it’s not what I want. I won’t be able to manage it. We have a good life. Today I found out I’m pregnant and I feel like I destroyed my family. Is it hormones? I want to happy, but I feel like we are doomed. What’s wrong with me???? [/quote]

It's just that you're now being forced into a reality check. It was easy to daydream for the last two years, but now that it's real, you can't help but think of the downsides. I am going through a milder version: I am sure I want my kid to have a sibling, but I am not in denial that this will change our family dynamic and be physically harder than having one. That said, our son is 3.5 and has become quite easy, plus, now I am under no illusion I can handle this without help, so I feel better prepared all around

I would recommend listing the various fears you have and then thinking about ways to solve potential problems (e.g. "I'm afraid I won't be able to physically handle another baby." Solution: more childcare and rest, and reducing work stress).  Congrats and good luck![/quote]

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