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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As the spouse of an only, one thing I really appreciate is that MIL and FIL were happy to celebrate holidays on our terms. As long as she gets a Thanksgiving dinner with her son or a chance to open Christmas presents, it doesn't matter if it's that day or a week earlier/later. There is a lot of pressure on only children, so that's something to watch. Also, have solid plans in place for when you're older and health declines. It is a lot of pressure on an only to be the only one responsible for aging parents. DH never minded being an only child. Try not to worry too much about it. There are definite benefits.[/quote] Anecdotal accounts are not helpful, especially since there are plenty of studies about only children. OP -- studies have shown that only children are no more lonely, spoiled, or socially maladjusted than children with siblings. Only children and children with siblings can feel pressure to take care of aging parents. Likewise, both can feel tremendous pressure from parents to perform at a certain level. Point being -- do what makes sense for your family. There are no generalizations one can make about what it's like growing up in various family arrangements.[/quote] Yes, agreed that pressure can happen with siblings, as well. But, don't you notice a theme here? All three only-child PPs have mentioned feeling pressure.[/quote] The studies say onlies turn out the same as eldest children. If you started a thread "Tell me about being an eldest" I bet you would get a lot of the same. I am an eldest and felt a lot of pressure to succeed, perform academically, get a good job. DH is also an eldest and we are both the responsible ones who will care for aging parents. [/quote]
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