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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband - whom I love - sometimes forgets to lock our front door. He forgets to do it when he goes out, he forgets to do it at night. (He goes to bed after I do, most nights.) He used to forget to lock the door a lot - after many arguments, it's less often. But he gets so f*cking defensive about it when it happens - and basically just says: well, sorry, but it's going to happen every now and then. Deal with it.

Knock wood a million times, we haven't experienced any negative repercussions so far, other than me getting very stressed out and angry and us having a fight. We live in a pretty safe area (again, knock wood a million times).

We aren't having a marital crisis over this. We aren't going to divorce. It is in some ways emblematic of other issues - I think he's needlessly reckless about certain things; he thinks I get angry with him too much - but we have a good marriage.

I don't know what my question is exactly. I guess - have you figured out either a behavioral or technological trick that gets a spouse who doesn't lock the door to do it? And/or how upset would you be in this situation? I'm not crazy to feel upset about this, am I?

And no I won't give you our address.[/quote]

I find it hard to believe this is the only thing he chronically forgets to do.

A) You should check before you go to bed. 
B) You should put notes up all over your house where he can read them and do it. 
C) If this is a pattern or involves him forgetting other things he agreed to do, or him writing off "details, details, who cares" consider counseling with an ADHD Inattentive specialist. [/quote]

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