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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think people who ask really don't realize that they're essentially bringing up a topic that amounts to a death in the family at a happy social event.   It is just a normal topic to many people.  And that's one of the many things that makes infertility such a painful parallel universe.   Sometimes it works to just give a slight no nod of your head and then answer with a another, unrelated question.  Like, "how do you know Suzy and Joe?"  I think a lot of people would catch the drift there that you don't want to answer.  And it's a way of deflecting the question that doesn't require you to divulge anything.  Sorry about your situation. It sounds very painful on multiple levels.  [/quote]

And for me, this is why I answered brutally honestly to the few people who were rude enough to ask because you're right- most people don't mean to be rude, they just chat about it like they chat about the weather. And when I would say "actually I just miscarried, and then just had an ectopic after that, so I don't know if it's something that will happen for us", people will realize the enormity of what they just asked and maybe keep their traps shut with the next woman they are "just chatting" with.[/quote]

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