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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DD is a strong athlete, talented according to several coaches.  Has dreams of playing high level soccer, she's only 10 now so we shall see.  She trains hard, wants to play almost everyday, practices on her own, tries out new things, fast on the ball, has good soccer IQ etc.  I'm saying this because I've seen it, and also been told by other parents and coaches since she was very little.  What I don't get is when she's with her team in a game, sometimes she will defer to them, lets them try to get to the ball first, holds back on attacking the ball.  I've asked her about it and she says "I wanted so and so to have the opportunity to score instead of me" or "so and so gets mad if I get to the ball first".  This didn't used to happen when she was younger, but now she's afraid her teammates won't "like" her if she is "better" then them or dominates the game.  Sometimes she's afraid to make mistakes too I think and holds back for that reason, but more often than not, she will defer to certain players that she wants to "like" her.  So my question is, is this normal for girls?  I'm pretty sure boys could care less what their teammates think and are always aggressive on the ball.  Do girls get to a point where their personal ambitions outweigh their desire to be "liked"?  Or is DD just not ruthless enough?  I'm not trying to turn her into a ruthless monster, please don't misunderstand me.  I'm just wondering if I should be pushing her a little to not worry about what other people think and just go for it or to let her figure it out on her own.[/quote]

Normal from my experience.  My DD one of the most talented players anywhere (top player, top team, etc.) but holds back doing what she can do because she doesn't want to stand out, and doesn't like all the attention.  She is aggressive, that;s not the problem, but this is a new social thing.  About the same age as your DD.[/quote]

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