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[quote=Anonymous]Here’s a suggestion for you, OP.  In the very near future, you announce to your DH, with an authoritative tone, that he got his way last year, so this year it’s your turn.  Tell him that you’re cooking Thanksgiving dinner in your home, and he’s welcome to invite (x number of) guests over.  If he starts to complain, argue, whatever....don’t try to reason with him, don’t plead, don’t argue.  All you need to say is, “I’m staying home this year and cooking dinner here for us.”  Followed by, “It’s not up for discussion,” and/or, “I’m not changing my mind.”  Tell the kids Thanksgiving is at home this year in the same authoritative tone.

Do your own planning, invite whomever you want, buy your own turkey and trimmings, etc., so he will see you mean it.  The keys to success are to use an authoritative tone and to not acquiesce, ever.  Your DH gets his way because you always cave, and he knows it.

Even if your DH chooses to go out without you, you stay home. This holiday may not be as perfect as you may hope as people get used to the changes, so be prepared for that. There may be plenty of griping or even tantrums, but just ignore them all.  Your goal this year is to break the pattern and stay home and you can accomplish that.

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