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[quote=Anonymous]My parents divorced and there was no addiction, adultery or abuse.

It's linked to historic events, but you will get the idea. My father was a teen/young man in the Great Depression, and in NY so life was rough for him.  So, like lots of people in that generation, he was compulsive about saving and not spending, etc.

My mom was 10 years younger, and grew up on a farm where there was always food, so The Great Depression didn't affect her the way it did my dad--basically she grew up feeling secure and he did not.

My father just could not spend money at all.  My mom jokes that she left him over a can of tuna fish "I had nothing for your kids' lunches but he wouldn't buy it because it wasn't on sale until Thursday."  Multiply that by 1,000 scenarios...there is your death by 1,000 cuts.

I also think that my dad was probably a bit on the spectrum, or just a very engineering-type guy (he was a scientist) and my mom was an extremely social and socially nuanced person, and that wasn't working out well when she wants to go to dinner with friends, and he's worried about the cost and also telling her if she needs a belt for her ONE dress, to use his...you can see how this is going...[/quote]

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