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[quote=Anonymous]i was in a similar boat - my husband had 0% morphology and low count (motility was adequate).  I, on the other, had great numbers.  I was rather gutted initially, but through a lot of research learned that morphology is highly subjective.  There have been studies that have shown that many men with 0% morphology go on to conceive naturally, it just takes a bit longer.  But it was very hard to cope with the "will i ever be a mother" problem, knowing that the odds are against us.

As for advice on the relationship - as challenging as it was for me, my husband was racked with a lot of guilt that it was his fault.  I tried my best to always phase things as "our problem", "we need" and never about "him" or "you" ... ultimately this is a challenge that WE had to go through together, regardless if the hurdle was caused by my body or his.  I also tried to refocus on the fact that I knew we will eventually have a family, i just didn't know when and in what form (we were open to attempting IVF, and/or adoption).  Also, everyone processes differently - i wanted to talk about it constantly, because that is how i feel better.  My husband preferred not to be reminded at all times.  It took a few good fights for me to get the message, and i learned that i needed to use my best friend as my outlet for the constant talking about the issue, because all it did was remind my husband of what he thought was his "failure."  We also booked several small trips every few months as ways to distract and refocus on our love for each other.  With TTC, esp with fertility problems, it's really easy to let it consume your life.  Remind yourself of the reasons you love this person, and have fun with this person outside of family.

On the more technical side, make sure he looks at his diet.  Boost the antioxidants to help with morphology, as well as de-stress, and reduce or remove any drinking/smoking in his life.  This did improve my husbands numbers (and it takes 3 months for these changes to go into effect).  He also started some supplements (fertilaid).

just FYI, we ultimately are a success story.  my husband's numbers improved slightly, but were still not great (morph was only 1-2%, and count was in the 5th percentile), and we had just scheduled our first IUI (I also had an HSG, which i think helped his swimmers) and then ended up falling pregnant naturally.

best of luck![/quote]

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