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[quote=Anonymous]I had a sister who was about 14.5 years older than me. She was murdered by her estranged husband after they had separated and were in the process of divorcing. She was 22 and I was almost 8. The court ordered her to take their baby for visitation and he killed her and committed suicide during one of those visits. He left the baby alone.  She told my dad and older brother (one year younger than her) that she thought my BIL was going to kill her. They told her not to be silly and paranoid. My dad carried the guilt of not listening to her to his grave and my brother, who is nearly 60 now still carries some guilt.

Fast forward a few years to the summer I turned 15. I helped my grandmother clean out closets in her house because she wanted to sell it and downsize. I found a box of paper...one of those big boxes that (in those days) typing paper came in...I guess now it would be printer paper. I opened it and it was filled with sheets my sister had written as a journal. It detailed times my brother in law had beaten her, chased her out of their apartment in his underpants so he could beat her some more etc. It was in some ways cathartic for me to read because it helped me understand what I hand't known before and that was my BIL didn't just snap one day. There was a lot of lead up to what he did. I showed the box to my mom who then burned its contents which I think was sort of dumb, but not my call.

Generally speaking, I don't think most people just snap. There are little things leading up to it along the way. It's important to pay attention and notice the little things without becoming paranoid in the process.[/quote]

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