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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hey it's me, the 13 year old again, I just want to add that all I know about myself, is that I don't think I'm straight. Also, a majority of my friends are figuring this stuff out really quickly, and it's just adding to the confusion.[/quote]

OP...I feel for you. It's a very confusing time. I'm quite a bit older than you but let me just tell you that I had a very good friend in middle school who "knew" that she had a strong same-sex attraction because of exactly what you described in your original post. (Strong feelings for a girlfriend and no physical attraction to random guys)...but the object of her affection was straight so she didn't even try to act on it or profess it in any way. They just hung out and had fun together.

But my friend "declared" that year that (mostly to herself and a couple of really good friends since it wasn't an LGBT-friendly time) that she was a lesbian.

Fast-forward to college and she comes out to all, meets the girl of her dreams, and they have a commitment ceremony. Like 50% of all couples, it didn't work out.
And, surprisingly, a few years after that, this friend is dating a MAN and they are getting married.

I asked her about it and she said "you know...I think we have it all wrong with the labels and such! I think sexual attraction is decidedly on a SPECTRUM! Some people fall sooooo far on one side of the sliding scale or the other that they can scream "I'm straight!" or "I'm gay!" at the first question of any of that." It was her very strong opinion that she is not "bi" or "gay" or "straight" but just that your soul just falls in love with another soul...we are attracted to people for who they are and what they mean to us. She says she wished she had not spent so much of her teens under a label she didn't really understand or fully identify with.

I think some of your friends who are quick to proclaim may discover something similar down the road.
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