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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You have plenty of time to figure your sexuality out. There's no need to choose a label and feel stuck with it forever. I generally identify as bisexual and have since I was a teenager. I know that it's more complicated than that, and at this point I just kind of go with the flow. I'm attracted to I'm attracted to, I love who I love. The labels really don't matter. [/quote] Thank you that's exactly how I feel, but all of my friends around me know so fast and I don't understand that.[/quote]

People have different personalities and kids respond to the uncertainties of adolescence differently.  Some kids are quick to adopt and proclaim a label, and may find in a year or two or five that it doesn't fit them anymore - and switch.  Some kids minimize their confusing or conflicted feelings and pick one thing to run with.  Other kids are more paralyzed or frozen in response to the confusing feelings.  They take it slow and wait to figure things out and stay kind of quieter.  Neither is a "wrong" way to be and neither is a "right" way to be.  Most of it is personality, and some of it is that puberty affects kids at a range of ages.

I remember being a "later bloomer" - and I was not someone who had "crushes" as a tween or young teenager.  I definitely considered if maybe I wasn't straight because I didn't seem to have the same boy crushes as other tween friends.  But it turns out I was just young and not as far through puberty as some other kids, as well as being a bit shy and hating to ever be the center of attention.  (And having a "crush" or "boyfriend" in 5th-8th grade is kind of more about the whole social group knowing and talking about it and giggling and whatnot rather than a relationship between the two individuals - at least it seemed that way to me).  It was way too public for my 12-13 year old comfort and I am perfectly fine with having hung back until high school.

TL;DR - growing up is confusing but really, you're all fine and you'll figure it out.  [/quote]

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