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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nope, I loathe my drunk husband.  He isn't nasty or anything (thank god, not an angry drunk) but he's a lightweight and he very quickly just gets sloppy and stupid.  And he can easily get to the point of throwing up - which I have zero respect for in a man in his mid-40s.

[b]It's one of our biggest marital issues (and was an issue while dating also.)[/b]

He thinks I'm uptight and weird about it because I come from a long line of alcoholics and addicts - and there is some validity in that.  [/quote]

Serious question - why marry him then? I go out with friends who have that exact same marriage and the wife is always miserable about 30 minutes into the festivities because he's practically passed out in the planters. [/quote]

Fair question.  Sometimes I think I shouldn't have.  IMO he drinks too much and too frequently and gets waaay too drunk (while thinking that is totally fine and no big deal).  But if he married someone who wasn't bothered by it, found him cute or funny when drunk, or has a different attitude towards frequency of these behaviors then he'd be fine.  So we're not well suited on this issue.  We're also not well suited on a couple of other critical issues.

However, we are committed to making our relationship work (and therefore try to meet each other more than halfway on challenging issues) because we're extremely well-suited in terms of morals, values, goals for a family, financial management and stability, communication skills, trust, sense of humor, approach to family/friends/social life, shared significant hobby (which is how we met), etc...  We each have compromised significantly on the drinking issue so it flares up between us as a source of tension perhaps once or twice a year and we both seem able/willing to live with that.[/quote]

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