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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I am glad I read these comments and realize I am out of touch.  I originally was a bit offended when she told me all this because a.) [b]I felt like it implied my own children wouldn't think of her or take care of her in old age when they have a good relationship and seem to genuinely like each other [/b]and b.) it felt like she was just picking a paycheck over marriage.  She is very interested in living together/buying a 2nd vacation home together in a place we both love.  I guess I just assumed we would get married.  She very frankly told me "my husband worked a job he hated for years to ensure I would be provided for in all circumstances of life."  which to me doesn't seem like "independent woman" it seems like picking the "richer" man.  I know I need to change my thinking on that. [/quote]

1) I would never count on my stepkids to take care of me after their father died.  I am not their mother.  They are not my kids.  It isn't the same relationship and I've seen too many kid/step-parent battles over money after one parent died.

2) I wouldn't marry you on a bet. You are screamingly insecure. You are competing with her dead husband. You are trying to win against a dead man.  You can't win that fight. No one can win that fight. You will continue to be insecure and make crazy demands trying to win a fight that is unwinnable.

She should DTMFA.[/quote]

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