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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's not bigotry to not be attracted to a certain type. It is bigotry to be attracted and even start dating, find out, then dump them.[/quote]
What if you dump them because you want bio-kids?[/quote]
I guess that depends on the specific situation. I know several transgender people who have bio kids. I also know several transgender people who are not interested in bio kids at all. It's not like it's one specific way for everyone. Certainly if you do not have the same childbearing/rearing priorities/values as a romantic partner, it's best to end that relationship, but that's about childbearing/rearing priorities, not the person's gender.[/quote]
Fairly certain one cannot have bio-kids after a reassignment operation...so in the scenario where you are a woman dating someone who identified as a man but was genotypically a woman, you can't have bio-kids with them. You could have adoptive kids or maybe a kid with your egg and donor sperm...but that might not be what you want.

I know this isn't straightforward. I went through years of IF treatments with my DH, but, honestly, I was on the fence about using donor sperm/egg if it came down to it. We were able to have kids with our own DNA, in the end.[/quote]
And someone can definitely be transgender without having full reassignment surgery. One of the trans women I know is the biological father of 2 children who call her mom. Her ciswoman wife was the one who carried the children. People figure out lots of ways to have kids.[/quote]
None of these seem to be situations where a cisgendered person started dating someone whom they thought was cisgendered (of the opposite sex), and then found out they were transgendered (with or without surgery). That was the situation that I thought the first PP was alluding to. In that situation, you will be the same genetic sex as your partner, and biokids are not possible.[/quote]

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