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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would not make a decision this important based on your experience as a nanny. Are there other reasons that you have decided you don’t want children?[/quote]

Op here. I’ve have most of my exposure to children through my nanny experience. It’s such a life altering decision and commitment. When I was a nanny, I found myself becoming bored and just disliked the job. I’ve experienced first hand what having a kid did for these families. While they loved it, they endured sleepless nights, hours of crying kids, toddlers with tantrums, breastfeeding issues, body issues, etc., that no doubt put a strain on their relationship. Most suffer intimacy intimacy issues, and I’m a very sexual being, and enjoy frequent sex. You have to give up almost all of your time to your kids and can’t do simple things like just get up and go to dinner, take a spontaneous trip somewhere for a weekend, have xtra spending money. [/quote]

It is life altering and it is a lifelong commitment.  You are correct. It is 24/7/365/rest of your life. If you are not willing to put your wants on hold for your child's needs, then you have made the correct decision.  It is not for everyone and if everyone had full disclosure, I think that many more would choose to be childfree.  It is a valid choice.

We took the plunge two decades ago and have a 21 and a 19 year old and we are still not out of the woods yet.  Both had special needs that needed to be addressed and ameliorated in order for them to be able to become independent adults.  Both are in college now and doing well, but it took quite a bit of effort and a major financial hit. My career was also a casualty. We are not the norm, but still we are a possibility.

Just curious, how many times in the last month did you spontaneously get up and go out for dinner?  How often on the last 12 months did you go on a spontaneous trip for a weekend?

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