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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would not make a decision this important based on your experience as a nanny. Are there other reasons that you have decided you don’t want children?[/quote]

Op here. I’ve have most of my exposure to children through my nanny experience. It’s such a life altering decision and commitment. When I was a nanny, I found myself becoming bored and just disliked the job. I’ve experienced first hand what having a kid did for these families. While they loved it, they endured sleepless nights, hours of crying kids, toddlers with tantrums, breastfeeding issues, body issues, etc., that no doubt put a strain on their relationship. Most suffer intimacy intimacy issues, and I’m a very sexual being, and enjoy frequent sex. You have to give up almost all of your time to your kids and can’t do simple things like just get up and go to dinner, take a spontaneous trip somewhere for a weekend, have xtra spending money. [/quote]

What you are describing is really only the early years. Maybe five, versus a lifetime of being a parent.[/quote]

It also exposes the difference between being a nanny and parent. You're seeing all the negatives and none of the positives. I spent an hour this morning with my toddler trying to help her with a difficult bowel movement. Talk about a less than glamorous morning! She still hasn't succeeded and I'm checking in on her trying to talk her through it. On the outside, describing this to anyone this probably sounds like your literal parenting nightmare. So gross, so awkward, so weird blah blah blah.

But she is in pain, I feel her pain, and when she succeeds I will feel her success. She will hug me while she gets it out crying and I'll be providing her comfort no one else can. And all of those emotions make being a parent worth it, make all those things worth it. You love them so much, caring that much about someone makes you feel more alive, gives you purpose.

Of course its fine to not want to have kids, but those things you list are the temporary fire where you forge a bond that is really unlike anything else you can find in life. [/quote]

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