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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The older I get, the more I look back at photos of myself objectively. I see now that I was cute, pretty, attractive, whatever. Or, I see the women my ex-boyfriends from college and early twenties/thirties era married, and by most objective standards, we are very similar in the looks department.

[b]Religious conservatism[/b], not willing to relocate without a wedding when the finances/timing were not right, not willing to move in with someone, expecting a traditional courtship, focusing on graduate school, and career; helping with a terminally ill parent, these are all more likely reasons why logistically my relationships didn't work out.

I read so many romance novels, and I really thought at the time that if I was stunningly beautiful, my life would have worked out with the right man.

I hope most of you consider other areas of your life that need improvement besides your looks when it comes to relationships.

Don't be so hard on yourselves.[/quote]

This is probably why. I found dating religious men (I'm a woman) extremely frustrating. [/quote]

NP. What did you find frustrating about dating religious men? Too rigid? Wouldn’t have sex?[/quote]

I found that they waffle quite a bit. First it’s no sex, but then they give in after years of repression and are actually quite fun (I assume from it being bottled up for so long), then they flip to “what did you make me do, devil woman!”, but then they want more sex, then they feel guilty again, etc etc etc. Same with dating a “non-believer”, they flip flop back and forth on whether it’s okay or not. Too much drama.

It’s also the expectation of having to jump through dozens of hoops to prove my worthiness and cater to their lifestyle. I have a feeling this is what OP’s exes felt- like there was a huge expectation of a traditional courtship, wedding, etc but their own needs were never taken into consideration. It’s very frustrating when someone has a huge checklist for you, but they refuse to meet your own needs and wants.

I’ve found a lot of religious people also try to “save” their non-religious partners and that’s very annoying.  [/quote]

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