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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, but they don't sound like awful people so you should probably maintain the relationship, anyway.

[b]Be careful what you let your kids witness in how you treat other people[/b].[/quote]

You are right.  I also want to be careful about not having my kids see me being treated poorly or being around people who don't respect me.  I want to teach them respect, loyalty and the importance of giving and receiving love.[/quote]

Your kids should not be audience to any discord with grandma and grandpa. That should be kept behind closed doors. If G&G can't make that happen I would scale back, if they can then I would stick around. [/quote]

They may not witness it, but not responding to a call or text from me is rude. Not acknowledging my birthday or mother's day when we send cards/gifts and call is rude.   The kids also ask why we haven't seen them so I'd need to lie to them to cover it up.  [/quote]

Not acknowledging your birthday? What are you 5? My ILs have never acknowledged my birthday, why would you care about this? And texts? Old people are bad at texting.

If the kids aren't witnessing the 'rudeness' then the idea of watching your kids seeing you be poorly treated is irrelevant. If your kids are asking to see their grandparents then let them see their grandparents. And why do you have to lie? Just say, 'oh we haven't gotten something on the books in awhile, would you like some more mashed potatoes? How was class today?'

A lot of posters on here have MILs that barge into their houses and hospital rooms, that take up their DH's time, that force their entire extended family to celebrate only them on mother's day, that emotionally abuse their children, that manipulate grandchildren against their parents.

You seem to have pretty standard issue slightly overbearing ones. You haven't mentioned anything THAT bad and you want their money. Either accept that you will have to entertain this MILD annoyance in your life for a big payoff or cut them off and accept that you won't get it. This isn't hard. But since your kids are old enough to miss these grandparents and ask for them then ask yourself if you are doing THEM a disservice (not you and DH's bank accounts) by not showing up a few times a year so some QT. [/quote]

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