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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know I should, yet I can’t muster the courage. It’s not financial - I work and make enough money. 
It’s the kids.  I’m afraid they will never recover.
I’m also a little sad about our life - our friends and community and that aspect. 
But mostly I can’t imagine telling this to the kids. They are 13, 12 and 6. [/quote]

You have to just accept the fact (despite what those in denial have to say about their own divorces) that [b]your children will statistically have higher rates of anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts[/b]. Maybe they wont, but your kids are at a very vulnerable age.

Abuse is the only thing that would make me walk. I also hold my tongue around my kids when it comes to fighting with DH because they are more important than getting thr last word in.[/quote]
Meh, I have all of those things and my parents stayed together. Don't divorce because of statistics.[/quote]

Interesting. My best friend has all of those issues too, and her parents are lovely and still married after 50 years!

My own kids survived my divorce quite well. It was eight years ago. They have none of these issues, though of course the divorce was difficult for them. They didn't see it coming. It broke my heart, but I couldn't say in the marriage.  There was no fixing the marriage, or my husband. And I could not have predicted it all.

In short, I gathered the courage when I realized my ex was leading a double life. He was also a binge drinker. He was a failure at 40 - something no one could imagine because he seemed so great when we got married. He was a liar. He was compulsive and immature. He was charming when getting his way, and abusive when he was close to getting caught.

Basically was/he is a sociopath who engaged/s in extreme anti-social behavior.

Every divorce is different, just like every marriage is different (happy or unhappy, despite the old expression).

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