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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t think what my parents did was objectively right, especially by today’s standards, but I’ve turned out well and never got into trouble. I don’t recall having any particular rules. No curfew, I was allowed to work PT during HS (some of my friends weren’t), I traveled on some weekends for my sport by myself or with my sibling (like we would drive 4-5 hours away and stay in a seedy hotel by ourselves (at 16 and 14). Little academic pressure, never asked about homework. In retrospect all a little strange but I managed to get myself into a top SLAC (which they paid for), and later an ivy grad school (which I paid for). [/quote]

This was my life exactly.

I was an easy kid and a good kid naturally.  They didn't need tons of rules because I always did the right thing naturally.  I was the teen who was always the DD for my friends because I took not drinking before 21 very seriously.   :roll:   (Well, at least until college)

They had no idea of what classes I was taking or my grades until it was report card time.  I'd hand it over and get the standard, "well done!  Where would you like to go eat for your celebratory dinner?"  Their college guidance/interest was pretty much just writing the check for the application fee when I asked for one.  They allowed me to go on an epic spring break road trip to tour colleges up the East Coast with my (coed) friends.    [/quote]

That does sound very similar! Even the road trip. I traveled with a co-ed group of friends twice senior year. But we were all pretty straight laced, and it turned out that 2 of the guys are gay (maybe our parents knew more than we did at the time!). And same on college apps. I did them myself, selected the list myself (except there was one school my mother flat out said she wouldn't pay for so I didn't apply there).

I do think that a little more guidance would have been helpful although in some cases I just think they didn't know any more than I did. I sometimes took the hands off approach as lack of interest rather than trust.[/quote]

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