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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I second the opinion to be truthful if asked. Prepare and practice the shortest, most direct explanation that you can give both verbally and in writing. Be sure to sit up straight and look them right in the eye when you speak about it. Start off by saying "I am a [u]survivor[/u] of domestic violence." If delivered well, you will leave them impressed by your tact, character, and courage.

Maybe something like this...

"I am a survivor of domestic violence. Untangling myself from that abusive relationship was challenging but I did it. Unfortunately, in the course of a particularly difficult exchange where I was forced to defend myself, the police were called and I was arrested. I didn't have the resources at the time to contest the charge and chose to plead no contest and pay a fine in order to put the experience behind me as soon as possible. Now that my personal and financial life is on stable footing, I am currently in the process of getting it [maybe avoid the word conviction, just say "it"] expunged from my record. It will soon be off of my record completely and it has no bearing on my ability to do this job."

Best wishes to you, OP![/quote]

I wouldn't say that you are a survivor of domestic violence if your boyfriend never used physical force against you.  It sounds like from what OP said that he was verbally and emotionally abusive, but not that he hit her.  It's not clear from her description whether her actions would count as self-defense.  I would say that she was in an "abusive relationship," which is accurate.  [/quote]

Np... DV is not just physical abuse but emotional and verbal abuse as well. [/quote]
Former DV prosecutor.  Other than actual threats to harm the victim or stalking, emotional and verbal abuse are not prosecuted as domestic violence crimes.  And someone being emotionally or verbally abusive does not mean that hitting that person qualifies as self-defense.  Since we're talking an arrest record/the criminal justice system, I think OP should be precise and not suggest that she was the victim of physical violence if she wasn't.  [/quote]

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