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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]WARNING TO MEN: if your wife is pushing you to make more, she is making plans to divorce you. [/b]

I once had a great academic job.  I loved going to work every day, and it was a tenured job with excellent benefits and retirement.  DW was unhappy that I enjoyed my career, and also wanted more money (she didn't make much).  She waged a relentless decade-long campaign to get me to leave the academia and go into the private sector.  Eventually I relented and got a better paying private sector job--essentially my salary doubled.

But she still wasn't happy.  I now had less time to do the housework and cooking and child care I had been able to do on the academic calendar/schedule (I did the majority of those tasks before), and I did really well in the private sector position, and received promotions.  She began to treat me even worse--she now knew that a divorce would be good for her financially, she'd likely get $7k a month in alimony and child support, plus half of everything else.

I divorced her anyway.  One of the benefits of my private sector job was my firm retained an excellent DC law firm, which recommended an excellent family law attorney for me.  With my private sector job and earnings, I could easily pay the expensive lawyer, who squashed DW's attempt to get any alimony and I wound up with shared custody and a relatively small child support bill.  Ironically, my child support bill is low because the lawyer was able to get the court to impute a much higher salary to DW than she actually earned (DW had a PhD but never used it).

Moral of the story: if your wife is not happy with the man you are today, she never will be.  Divorce her.  There are plenty of decent women out there.  
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What does this have to do with anything? OP's dh doesn't like his job and has a bad commute that affects his ability to do hh/childcare. [/quote]

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