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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Great replies above about standing firm and not engaging or negotiating. Do it with a smile, have a script you AND your husband both stick to, and change the topic the instant after you say no.

Grandma: "Let them spend the night!"

You/DH: "Remember, we discussed this and the kids don't like to sleep away from home. --How is cousin Sam doing in the new job?" etc.

If you prefer not to mention the kids' preference: "Remember, we discussed this. No overnights but we love you to see them. Did you go to the community center whatever last week..." New topics.

Be sure to keep offering her times to do things with them. Sounds like you do a good job of that already! She can never say you're "keeping the kids from me."

[b]Take care that she doesn't try to have private side conversations with your kids where she either guilts them ("Why don't you want to spend the night? Don't you like being with me?") or just tells them they are going home with her in hopes they and she together will break you down ("After ice cream you're coming over").[/b][/quote]
Unfortunately, she already has. She cornered our sensitive DD and told her, all she wants is for the to spend the night, it would make her happiest. This is what makes me angry, and spitefully wants to disallow overnight visits indefinitely.[/quote]

That's what I would do. Parenting is not governance by committee. I expect my parents and my ILs to follow my and DH's rules and respect our decisions, period. There is no negotiation, and violations will result in negative consequences for them. [/quote]

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