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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here ... thanks for the responses! I think the worst part is how it’s manifesting to the treatment of my daughter vs my niece (sisters daughter). Again on social media, my niece is “perfect” and “so gorgeous”! Mine gets “cute” at best.[/quote]

Honestly, OP, a lot of this would benefit from you stopping yourself from examining and weighing every word, and just letting stuff go that really doesn’t matter. Cute vs. Gorgeous? You’re fretting about that? Really?

Life isn’t an equal place. It’s fair, but not equal. Your daughter may be cute, but she also has things your niece doesn’t have, including a mother who buster her ass to get where she wanted to be. Don’t discount the advantages that something like that gives a child, long term.

One thing I’ve learned on this board is that comparison is the thief of all happiness. It’s so friggin true. The more you compare the treatment your daughter and niece get, the more unhappy you’re going to be. The more you compare the relationship your mother and you, and your mother and your sister have, the more unhappy you’re going to be. If you didn’t know the other side, would you be satisfied / happy?

The thing is, you’re in charge of your life. You’re choosing to waste time and effort stomping your feet about an inequality that you can’t change, and may have roots deeper than you think. It’s true what PPs have said, in that certain parents stick on the most needy of their children, so take it as a compliment that you have your stuff together. [/quote]

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