Reply to How do I manage MIL expectations of kids visiting her alone?

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "How do I manage MIL expectations of kids visiting her alone?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Like you said, don't argue the hypothetical future.  You just need to say something like "huh, maybe, hard to imagine right now because they are still too young".  Then change the subject.

What you do not want to do is put it in her head you've written off all future things like this, because [b]if she's anything like my own MIL, she will then latch onto this as The Thing That Is Most Important and it's all she'll talk about.[/b]  So I keep it vague.  They are clearly too young right now, so it's not a huge issue.  And when they get older my feelings may change a bit.  We'll start slow.  But again, she doesn't need to know that would be my plan.[/quote]

100% this. You may not want to do this right now. You may change your mind about it in a few years, but what you definitely won't change your mind about is not wanting to hear about it for the next few years. Be vague and then change the subject. Don't shut it down unless you do not trust your MIL for some specific reason or there is a specific reason why your child cannot fly alone.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics