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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Everyone is beautiful don’t talk to her about this in the way you are suggesting.  I would scarred if my mom said that to me.  People change too in their looks- it actually sounds like you value good looks more than you think.  Most people don’t think about this this much! [/quote]

I agree. I also wouldn't talk about it as you're suggesting, OP.

Most of us don't care about model-type beauty. What is attractive in a person is the light in their eyes, their smile, their humor and their character. For me, those aren't platitudes. It's completely true. Some model-beautiful people I've known in person quickly became completely unattractive. I know some "normal"-looking people who are attractive to their model-looking spouses. I think the subtext of the message you are suggesting for your daughter is "you are not pretty." That doesn't need to be said. "pretty" is shallow. Charisma is what makes a person attractive. Good health also helps a lot, so encourage good eating and lots of physical activity.  (also, the most attractive people in high school are no longer the most attractive in their 40s and 50s. Your message is just not a needed one. Just tell her about all the things that make her an attractive person, in the sense of being an appealing person.)[/quote]

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