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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Any stories about a guy who left his marriage on a whim, but later regretted it? Maybe delusional? Thought he could do better, then found out that was not the case?[/quote]

Men don't usually divorce because they think they can "do better".  Men leave because they are not happy.  Yes, men need to be happy also. This notion that it's always the man's fault is so stupid and bias.  Some women never learn.  When a man isn't happy in a marriage it's the wife's fault also.  It's a two way street.  It's both party's fault.  I know several men who are divorced.  None regret it.  Why?  Because they were so unhappy!  We only live for so long, way waste years of it being sad, frustrated and just unhappy waking up.[/quote]

I don't think most women believe they were perfect (I don't.) But I don't believe my STBXDH put the effort in someone who wanted to save their marriage would. And several times now, my STBX has said things like "I didn't really think you'd leave." So when we were having those awful months of trying and working on things, and we would have the long, terrible discussions and he'd say he was still unhappy... all that time, he still just thought it would work out. Even though he didn't put in the effort or do the work or do the things he said he'd do, he still was surprised when after months of hell, I left. So there are men out there who say they're unhappy but then also just want to sit back and wait for the wife to fix it for them, and that's not how it works. And I'm sure my husband was not the first man to think along the lines of "if it's meant to be, I'll be happy, and it'll all work out" when that isn't how real life works. So while it's not my husband's fault our marriage was flawed, I do not think he handled it well and I don't think he put in the effort he should. [/quote]

At least you have the guts to admit you had a part to play in a flawed marriage. [b]Women very rarely take accountability for their contributions to the failure.[/b]  That means you are probably a gem in my book. Anybody who can take accountability for their shortcomings is a person that can have a real give and take relationship.[/quote]

How do you know this?  And are you a man or woman?[/quote]

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