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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How the heck does a 12 year old passing another kid "know" he needs a friend. You're making a lot of assumptions. Kid could sit outside the class for quiet (compared to lunchroom) or work or read. Kid could look like he's working outside classroom waiting for teacher to provide extra support when the teacher arrives in a few minutes. Kid could be waiting a few minutes til his friends walk by to join them on their way to lunch. Kid could be waiting o be picked up early and daily for an outside appointment (ot, etc).

You have every right to box up what is not purposefully hurting another kid and nevertheless classify it that way- but you're wrong. If I'm walking in a hall, passing someone sitting outside a class and I've got a limited lunch I'm wading towards, I'm not assuming anything about the kid outside a classroom bc the possibilities are too vast. [/quote]

You are being obtuse. I've made my point and you are trying to deflect for some reason. You think your child is being kind by just not bullying a person, but they are not. They are just not being mean. It is my opinion that the kids in Wonder who were in class with Auggie and did not try to even say a friendly word were practicing avoidance. Some of them also never went up to him to be mean, but were mean to him behind his back. Seeing a child sit alone all year at lunch would be something obvious just like it was in that movie. You might be in class with that person and have the opportunity to spend some time with that person versus ignoring them and just spending time with your friends. We recently had an autistic child join our scout troop because the kids weren't friendly to that child in the other scout troop. But I guess in your world those kids and parents just had their own friends and no time for others, right? It is a basic practice of the Christian faith to help those in need, so it does not seem the least bit weird to me to have someone go out of their way to make a friendly gesture to another child they think might need a friend. I'm sorry for you that in your world you have no time for such help and it is so much work for you. You won't convince me that somehow you are still being kind, so find someone else to make your case to.[/quote]

Also wanted to clarify two things. While I think you can smile and say hi to someone in a hallway, I agree that there are better places to make acquaintances. Which is why I said, that if you're only seeing people in a hallway that need help you are not looking. You are the one who keeps turning my discussion around that somehow I think everyone should strike up conversations with strangers in hallways. That is not what I was saying, but you are ignoring my words. Secondly, I am not OP. So I don't know the particulars of OP's situation, however, I know enough 12-year-olds in the area to know that kids attach labels to people and some children are avoided because of them. The kids who do the avoidance are not being nice to the child they avoid no matter how nice they are to other people. The niceness oesn't translate to the person being avoided.[/quote]

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