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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you're conflicted because he was an addict and a alcoholic and not someone who ran off with another woman and abandoned you deliberately. I would read up about addiction, get some perspective about the disease, and not make emotional decisions (like you did when you blocked him from Facebook). You're pissed off and sad. I think you need to approach this in a more practical way for your healing and his. Maybe approach it from a place of understanding and generosity, rather than reacting to your anger and sadness? I don't know. I'm no expert. But since he didn't do it to me, I'm thinking give the dude a chance? [/quote]I don't know if you should contact your father. You might want to attend some Al-Anon meetings and listen to other folks who have friends and family who are alcoholics.  And if you decide to contact him, regular attendance at Al-Anon would be helpful.  At any rate, this pp is right about reading up on addiction.  You may have inherited a predisposition to addiction from your father.  And it's something you would definitely want to talk to your kids about as they grow up because they might inherit this as well.  (My kid grew up in a non-drinking household and became an alcoholic anyway.  It helped her that she had heard about this possibility growing up and fortunately is in recovery today.)  You should learn more about your disease.  Just because your father is out of your life now - that doesn't mean the disease will stay out of your life.

Anyway, whatever your decision, sounds like a good thing you're doing some thinking about this.  Hope things work out as best they can.  Good luck![/quote]

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