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[quote=Anonymous]My guess is that she's emotionally detached now. There isn't anything you can magically do or say, but if you keep texting her and trying to make a comeback, it's not going to work. She's going to see you as weak, and she's highly suspicious that you'll repeat behaviors. You have so much going on right now... it sounds to me like you go through this bad behavior-shame cycle. It's probably predictable to her. Time to break the cycle and see what happens. You have to show her, not tell her. And by showing her that you accept her choice not to be with you, and you begin to develop life away from her, she'll have enough distance and time -- she will be watching you. She'll start to learn that you've become a happy person. She'll see that you've matured, have become secure and confident, and if you get the opportunity at some point to spend time with her, ease in ... don't barrel ahead recklessly and ruin it. Make her want you. And when she does, show her that you choose her because you love and want her, not because you want to control her.

You have a lot of work to do on yourself, but do it for you, not for her. Do it because you want a fulfilling life. Stop feeling shame about what you've done. You didn't choose this for yourself. You have problems and you can fix them. Everyone does! Even your wife. [/quote]

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