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[quote=Anonymous]so, what he is doing is subtly undermining you. By constantly bringing up how he could leave and then claiming he's so loyal so he wouldn't do that, he is at once making you feel insecure, asking for praise for his  loyalty and, notably, not saying "I wouldn't leave you because I love you/am lucky." Its a manipulative form of denigration and criticism. I also hear some 'asks' for praise and validation about his participation in the household/marriage that leads me to ask you whether you express appreciation for this aspect of him and whether that is also behind his behavior.

You need to call him on it and ask him what is behind it: is the only thing keeping him from leaving that he is "loyal" and that he is not otherwise emotionally fulfilled? is he happy/u happy? what would he like to change? What would you like to change? You guys need to get at the deeper issues, since it seems you both use commentary and issues like childcare or appearance to get at deeper problems. [/quote]

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