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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm the previous prosecutor poster coming back to comment on the last two posts.  As much as I appreciate their perspectives, I get frustrated when people chalk up DV to "anger issues."  DV is about so much more than anger problems.  If it were only about his anger, he'd also hit his children, parents, boss, server at a restaurant, other drivers on the road etc. etc. when they made him angry too.  There's an additional pathology with domestic abusers that's less fixable than someone who just has problems controlling their anger.  [/quote]

I don't think you can say unequivocally that anger issues aren't at play.  I'm a PP who has had people very close to me have DV issues, and there were certainly anger issues.  In my experience, the person is able to hold it together for work and even kids, but they think that it's okay for the spouse to be the outlet.  That's not the case in all DV situations, but it certainly was the case in the one close to me.  Yes, there are also control issues.

Just because a person is screaming at everyone all the time doesn't mean they don't have anger issues.    A person can exercise self control all day, knowing very well he can go home and binge/unleash.

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