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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - thanks PP, I totally understand. 
And while I do not want to exclude other single parenting parents, with all due respect to the 10:40 poster, please do not try and tell me that a divorced parent can at least minimally not rely on the other parent. Unless your ex is a total absent parent who disappeared, does not pay any child support and never has the kids. For example: both I and my two kids have been sick all week, since last week Friday. I cannot rely on my ex to help out, to give me some relief with the kids. Most single parents I know can call the other parent and ask for some help. Several of the single moms I know had the kid's pre-school expenses paid by the father. Of course I can rely on babysitters, and such, but that is not what the post was about. My post to totally single parenting parents was about asking them if they had to compromise in their career due to single parenting. [/quote]

[b]OP, this isn't a contest.  Each situation sucks.  I personally don't understand why you feel compelled to rank your parenting situation as "the worst".[/b]  Some aspects are worse and some are better than those of us who have a living second bio-parent.  Ever try parenting with a mentally ill person?  How about a drug addict or alcoholic?  Or someone who is defrauding you financially?  Personally, SMC seems pretty good sometimes.  Yes, it's true that some parents have a co-parent who cannot be relied upon at all in the way you describe.  And sometimes having someone that you rely on that pulls the rug out from under you is just as bad as having no one at all.

Do you want first prize in the "my parenting job is harder than yours" division?  Or do you want actual advice?  Lots of parents have to compromise their careers for parenting -- single or not -- for zillions of reasons.

If you don't want to compromise your career, your going to have to find other people to help you, whether it's a babysitter or a coop or an hour at the kids club while you work out at the gym. [/quote]

It really seems like SMC's always feel like they are better than women who are single moms for other reasons. I was single and pregnant with no contact with the father, and I wasn't able to find any kind of supportive group to join. The only group in this area for single pregnant women is a SMC group that specifically excludes women in other situations. I really could have used the support but I got pregnant "the wrong way" so I never was able to join an expectant moms group. OP, you should work on your shitty attitude and maybe you won't feel like you're "alone with no help."[/quote]

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