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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Depends on your access to a bathroom. With my various miscarriages I pretty much had to run to the bathroom once an hour to pass whatever. But usually that only lasted a day or two and after that was just heavy bleeding, manageable with a pad. If you are passing tissue for more than 2-3 days, I'd call your doctor.

Sick leave probably is best, though I understand it's hard with the shutdown and you would understandably be reluctant to disclose the miscarriage. I came close to a similar situation myself with my last miscarriage -- suspected ectopic and they insisted methotrexate had to be scheduled for a Tuesday that I had an oral argument. I was NOT looking forward to giving a reason to my boss -- or the court -- for that one. Fortunately I miscarried naturally the day before.

It really comes down to either toughing it out with lots of pads and hourly bathroom checks, or sick leave and likely telling them the reason. (Although, if you are a nonessential fed, you will not be allowed to take sick leave -- you would simply not report in and not be paid. No leave is permitted during the shutdown.)[/quote]

When did we get to the point that a woman cannot take a sick day when she had miscarriage?[/quote]

You can, of course, but many work places will require you to give a reason -- or at least doing so would be prudent if you are high up in your organization and don't want to be seen as a slacker when an important project is at stake. I don't know about you, but acknowledging miscarriage (or early pregnancy) is not something I'm interested in doing at work.

And the no sick leave if shut down is the law. If the government is shut down, all fed leave is canceled. Of course you don't report for work. But you can't call it sick leave, either. In the government you can't just take a "sick day"; you have to accrue and use actual hours of sick leave. [/quote]

Not sure how it is in the government, but I never can find my bosses in the office, and they have no issues with shifting responsibilities to others, empowering as they would call it. Also, working remotely is always an option for us. I am 8 weeks pregnant and worked 72 hrs last week, I couldn’t do it anymore, so I told my bosses that I am reducing my schedule to the required at this time 55 hr weeks (tax reform). There are so many jobs in NOVA, honestly I would rather take a $30k pay cut and work 50 hrs per week. I am one level down below my bosses and exhausted from covering for all personal items that people constantly have coming up, when we are already operating in an environment with short resources.

Also, probably a separate discussion, I find that women have harder times relying on her subordinates, and typically are more in control of their projects, resulting in noone being able to cover for them... but also, often at my job we hire bunch of bodies that are not able to do the job.
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