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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Would it be a mistake for me to share this link with my husband? I really think he has no idea how f'ed up this whole thing is and it might help for him to know that people other than me think it's wrong. He will tell me from time to time how much he loves my parents and marvels that they are so nice to him [b]"even though they have no reason to be nice." [/b][u] [/quote]

Oh, OP, the statement in bold here is profoundly sad. Your DH does not know how normal people act because he was raised in such dysfunction. He doesn't know that he deserves to be treated decently--not just decently, but well. He was raised to think otherwise and to assume no one has "reason" to be kind to him because he parents weren't. I really, really hope this horrid visit will encourage him to get help ASAP for himself while also making him see that his own children need to be raised away from the people who damaged him. His concern for what other relatives think of him speaks volumes about how much he feels he needs approval (even if he doesn't see it that way himself). This could be a turning point in his life, and a positive one, if he can get the right help now--while the realization that his parents are awful is still clear in his mind.[/quote]

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