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[quote=Anonymous]Agree about the need to make other friends.   My son had a situation somewhat like this when he was around 5th-7th grade (a kid who was not his friend but tried to insert himself into DS's social plans whenever he made plans with other kids and to exclude DS whenever this kid had plans).  The kid would also talk negatively about DS to other kids.  DS finally just stopped all contact outside of school and started focusing a lot more on his sports friends.  The kid reacted negatively for a while by stepping up his attempts to exclude DS and say negative things about him, but DS eventually just made a whole new circle of friends.

Over time, DS also realized that other kids in the original circle were kind of enabling this stuff -- one friend in particular (a girl) that DS considered one of his best friends.  In middle school, DS finally realized that he was still trying to be friends but she was answering about one in three of his texts and also making sure that DS knew when she was hanging out with the frenemy boy.  Once DS realized that she wasn't really his friend, he totally stop contact with her too.  He was friendly when they saw each other at school but never texted or initiated any contact.  When she invited him to hang out he replied regretfully that he had other plans whether he did or not.  It was a somewhat tough year or so socially while that happened, but DS ended up MUCH happier and started to blossom socially as he challenged himself to hang out with different kids.  Once high school started, his skill at getting out of his comfort zone and making new friends really helped him to make a lot of new friends.  Meanwhile that group from ES/MS is largely all still in the same somewhat dysfunctional little group.[/quote]

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