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[quote=Anonymous]I agree with lots of what has been said.  If you are stressed for space with a 2 bedroom, no kids, and no dog, that starter home will feel cramped with 2 kids, all your sporting equipment and a dog.  While it would be nice to be settled in a home before having kids, realistically you CAN start a family while renting a 2 bedroom.  If you start now, you are at least  20-24 months from worrying about a walking baby getting into everything.  You will also have more flexibility not being tied to a mortgage when you see how much daycare costs and figuring out what make sense job wise.

Let your DH see the homes on his own and if he really likes one,you can go out to see it. Also go to open houses and if you both like it, get the realtor to come back with you.  After we had been looking for awhile, we preferred to go to the open houses on our own and come back with our realtor if it was promising.    Eventually he will come to the realization either you have to save more, up the budget, or compromise somewhere else and will adjust the search appropriately.  There is clearly a disconnect somewhere and rather than get frustrated, I would play it cool and let him take the lead on the househuntung and not let it put family planning on hold.  FWIW, I was living in a 2 bedroom townhouse when we got married and I was prepared to have our first child if it came to it.  Both our parents grew up in NYC in an apartment with more children than bedrooms so we didn’t see renting or only having 2 bedrooms as being a deterrent to having kids.  Taking that pressure off means you won’t make a rash decision you will regret latter just so you can have a yard as soon as the baby is born.[/quote]

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