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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you open about using a surrogate? I ask because 12 years ago, a relative suddenly announced they were adopting and kept using this term.

But, years later, it was announced that a surrogate had been used...[/quote]

Legally they may have had to do an adoption, especially if it was not their sperm and egg so it was an adoption, but they had far more control than a regular one.[/quote]

This is OP. Technically, we had to do an adoption even though both the egg and sperm were DH's and mine. In some states, they automatically recognize the birth mother as the mother (and her DH as the father) even if there is no biological connection to them.

To the pp - yes, we were open about using a surrogate. It was a tough hurdle for me to jump at first. I hate admitting this but initially I felt somehow lesser because I wasn't carrying the child myself. I know it was my own issue to work through.

I’m confused why you called her a surrogate then. You used a gestational carrier...

At about the six month mark, everything changed for me and I was really able to embrace everything. I was constantly explaining to people the whole surrogate issue because I obviously wasn't pregnant. I still wanted to celebrate this baby with others.[/quote][/quote]

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