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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know this isn't helpful but man, why did you marry him?  [/quote]

+1.  Is there "lessons learned" advice you can share with us about things you would have done differently?  All women could benefit.[/quote]

Love makes us do stupid things. One of my friends is married to a guy with no job. He had no job when they were engaged either though he claimed to be 'looking'. He moved into [i]her[/i] house - again didn't help with the bills. 3 years later she's trying to divorce him. [/quote]

OP here.  Brace yourselves, this is probably going to sound pretty stupid.  Of course I was in love and couldn't imagine ever not being in love with this guy.  Having said that, I am also a pretty practical and analytical person and I actually felt that we were a good match in terms of work and finances.  When we met and married, I was in a pretty demanding job that required me to move around a lot.  Having a spouse who said that he [i]wanted[/i] to stay home and raise kids seemed perfect.  I knew that I would make enough money to support us, he wouldn't be tied to a job that made it difficult for him to move, so it seemed like the perfectly workable scenario.  This of course kind of blew up once his views on taking care of the kids changed.  I ended up taking a fed job so that he could have more stability for his own career, though he has struggled to find success.  I actually still really don't care that he doesn't make much money; I care that when he does make money he doesn't really contribute to our joint finances.  And it is just hard to swallow that while I have sacrificed and tried to be very financially responsible, there is the potential that he will 'throw away' his half and that it could impact our kids.  I don't really know what I could have done differently, other than leave him much earlier, I guess, though I can't in my heart imagine that I would ever allow him to fall on hard times.[/quote]

You sound like a very patient and fair person, OP.  Too bad this guy didn't rise to the occasion.  If you're like me, I could not respect a husband if he doesn't work hard at something (whether working for pay, taking care of kids, volunteering, renovating the house, etc).

I hope you can find a nice second husband who works hard at something.[/quote]

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